How To Get Ex Wife Back

Question by gto.dude: How do I get my pregnant wife back?
Here’s the scoop. My wife and I have been married for 4 months now and she is 3 months pregnant. About a month and a half ago our life began falling apart. Prior to this our life was amazing…she was the best wife anyone could ask for. Anyhow, this is how we got to today. For starters, I am divorced and now remarried and have custody of my 3 wonderful sons from the first marriage. In the middle of June on a Monday, my boys came back from a weekend with their mother and my littlest son who is 4 had been whipped until he was black and blue from my ex’s boyfriend. I called the police and yada yada. This created a bunch of stress for us especially since my current wife and I got married in April. Anyhow, tuesday I found out I needed a very extensive back surgery. Thursday my wife told me she was moving out…things were too stressful and she couldn’t handle it. Well she is still gone and has completely lost hope in our marriage. I love her beyond comprehension..help!!
She says that I need to change…blah blah blah. I did have my back surgery last week and had to move back in with my parents so I could have help. I quit smoking, quit drinking my whopping beer every few days. Oh and get this…my wife is Columbian and when we visit her family they tend to only speak Spanish yet they know English and I used to get frustrated so I went and bought Rosetta Stone to learn Spanish. I’m doing everything I can to help but nothing is working!!! She really is a wonderful girl but since she was about 1 month pregnant all hell broke loose. I know hormones run rampant but this is beyond normal. She tells me that it’s over and she won’t see a counselor. I mean the past month has been the worst in my life.
Oh and another thing that kind of topped things off that horrible week. On wednesday evening, my ex wife called crying from an abuse shelter because she left her bf. She was asking me to let her stay in our garage because she has no one here in FL. I told her no but she insisted on talking to my wife. So I handed the phone to my wife hoping that she would tell her off….unfortunately in backfired and she got the idea that I am still in love with my ex which is total BS!! OMG!! She says that she can’t forgive me for handing her the phone that night. I could write a book about this eh? Anyhow, I would appreciate any advice y’all may have as I do love her wholeheartedly.
For those that may say go get her, it’s not that easy. I had a spinal fusion of L-2 through S-1 done a week ago today and going anywhere is impossible. I have called and told her how much I love her and how much I miss her and all but she just gives me the cold shoulder saying how she made up her mind. She says that I need to move on. We have both made some not so nice comments to each other which I can forgive and forget but she says she can’t forget. I know she can but do you think she is just really confused and stressed? I miss every minute I am without her and I miss seeing her belly and talking to my unborn baby. She still talks to her ex-bf everyday and she said that she is going to be gone next week. When I asked where she was going she said “Why does it matter? We aren’t together so why do I have to tell you?” That comment was tough to swallow.I don’t know if she is going to Miami to be with her family for a week or going to hang with her ex for a week. What a mess!
What do you think the chances of her coming back are? Honestly??
Just for the record, I did not nor ever would let my ex-wife stay with us. I can honestly say that I have zero feelings for my ex and if it wasn’t for the kids I’d have nothing to do with her.

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Answer by nml
She is under a lot of stress because she is pregnant. Go win her heart back and pay attention to her needs. You are a good father, but now you need to be a good husband.

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Question by paschal: How can one get back ex wife or husband ?

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Answer by Non Sequitur
I don’t want my ex wife back.

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So, you are no longer together, but part of you finds it too hard to let go. If you think it’s worth the energy to win your wife back, this article is exactly what you have been looking for.

Remember those early days when you first met the love of your life — do you remember how flustered you felt at the sight of her and how she captivated your every thought? And how you jumped through hoops wanting to impress her – always conscious of the way you dressed in case you should run into her. You were at the top of your game. And why? Because you were in love and that love was reflected in all you did.

And suddenly, here you are — on the outside looking in, separated or already divorced and wondering what on earth went wrong. A few years ticked by, a decade, maybe two, and things changed — drastically.

“But,” you may argue, “Of course it changed; it’s supposed to change. It would be unrealistic to expect otherwise.” That first bloom of love can’t last forever. Maybe as the time ticked away, you began to take her love for granted. Your waistline thickened and now she’s become the ex “love of your life.

Don’t get me wrong. Love covers a multitude of sins, including growing waistlines. That is just an indication of a bigger problem. Could it be you were so confident that she loved you that you took her for granted — forgot to romance her?

Look at it this way: If she had died and you were in the market for a new wife, would you be dressing the way you dressed around your ex? I’m talking about that holey old T-shirt and sagging pants. Would you be popping donut holes down your throat like popcorn kernels? I think not! At least, I HOPE not! (Please tell me you wouldn’t —?)

I know you’re telling the truth. Can you guess how? By the very fact that you’re reading this article – the fact that you actually Googled about wanting to win your wife back. That says something – a great deal of something. It demonstrates your sincerity and willingness to take an honest inventory of your part in the breakup.

There are so many couples out there who have been through what you are going through – and are now reunited and happy. If you want to win yur wife back, it CAN happen — you just need to follow their example. Remember: Even if you were jointly responsible for the breakup of your marriage, the only person YOU can change is yourself.

Question by Marie S Zachary: How far would Monk go to get his wife back if it were possible to bring her back?

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Answer by Tristan de Roquelaure
Wow…that’s a hard one. As twisted up as he seems to be, I still don’t think he’d commit a crime to do it…but then he has shown a LOT of desperation as well….

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Question by deadman_2000_2000: Is it gonna be a problem getting my friend and his wife back into America?
ok so my friend is in croacia. he is married to his crocian wife (they wed in croacia) now he has to come back to america and wants to bring his wife back (more reasons than they are married ,economy is beter,life overall is beter) my friend has went and come back from there many times. But now he wants to bring his wife. they are worried that the gov will deny her and they will be held back. ANYONE WITH ANY INFO PLEASE HELP this is my friend and i dont want him to be held back becaus eof some bull crap we didnt know about.

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Answer by rachlg1979
is he a citizen? is he a permanent legal resident? is he just a casual visitor? what’s his deal? it’s hard to try to answer a question when you don’t give the information needed to answer it accurately. sorry

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Question by SouthernFried: Ex wife is moving from AL to Los Angeles with our 1 1/2 yr old daughter. Having a hard time.?
My soon to be ex and I have what seems to be a good civil relationship. We haven’t fought over anything or even differed on anything except this issue. She is originally from the West Coast and has lived in Alabama for 4 yrs. We married and started a family together, but the relationship as husband and wife ended. I still consider her a very good friend. She finished school here and has been looking for a job here from some time. She also started looking around back on the west coast too. Unfortunately for me, she has an excellent future lined up ahead of her in Los Angeles. I understand there are so many things I COULD do to either keep her here or get custody of my daughter, but do I really want to totally DESTROY any civility I have with her and create more turmoil in our life as well as my daughters. I know so many people who tell me “Take her a$ $ to court and win!” but what would that accomplish. She is a good and sweet mother to my daughter and I think I would have more ground to stand on if I work with her on this. Should I work this out where I see my daughter several times a year and have a long distance relationship, or should I file an injunction and KEEP her here against her will. She is DEFINITELY not going to give up our daughter, and I wouldn’t want her to. She doesn’t drink, doesn’t do drugs, and is a loving mother, however we do differ religiously. I am Christian (Baptist) and she has more of a Muslim background. This means my daughter would be raised exposed to more Islamic beliefs. How do I deal with this? My heart is so torn. I don’t want her to move off with my daughter, the most important person in my life, but I also don’t want to ruin the civil relationship we have worked to maintain for my daughters sake? I do want her to have a happy life. What did any of you who have been through this do? My parents live in Alabama and are pushing me to fight her tooth and nail, but I just don’t think that would do anything but end horribly and create a permanent hatred between me and my STBX. Please give me any advice that would help us out. What do I do to deal with this HUGE heartbreak in my life. I just want to show my daughter I love her and always will! I want to be able to be there for her when she needs me and share important moments in her life. Would this be possible from 2500 miles away? I have a decent paying job and would be able to travel to see her from time to time and she could come here holidays. I don’t know, I’m at a loss. I have talked and pleaded with my STBX countless times, but she has to live her life too. Asking for prayers. WHAT TO DO?

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Answer by alialoggi
Have you considered alternate choices? You could move out west, for your daughter’s sake? I think you want to keep it civil and if she has a good job waiting for her, then that would be difficult for her, but I think you can’t have a relationship with your daughter from so far away. You have two choices, go, or force her to stay, in court. There is typically a 100 mile rule, which means she’d have to stay close to you. You don’t want a bad relationship with her, but you do want a relationship with your daughter, and I’d tell your ex. that. You decide what works for you, but this may not be an easy decision. What decision works best for you? I wouldn’t let her leave without leaving also, is one choice, the second choice is they stay. No other choices are good ones.

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Question by *~*love always*~*: Ex wife causing problems…how do I keep my sanity?!?
Ok a here is a brief background: My boyfriend has an ex wife & 2 kids with her. She has tried repeatedly to break us up & yet again she is at it again! She found out that he was planning on moving me in so she started the “I love you lets work things out” game. She doesn’t really want him back. She knows he misses his kids (even though he has visitation) so she is using that to try to get him back. Cause then his kids would be at home all the time.

I know he is not going to fall for her games. She has tried it before & it didn’t work. He has not spent any time w/ her other then dropping off/picking up the kids. We love each other very much & I trust him completely. I am feeling insecure & I don’t know why! I know my relationship is not in danger but yet I find myself thinking “is he with her” everytime I can’t get a hold of him…most of the time its when he is sleeping. I have become rather ‘needy’ & when he has stuff to do at home & can’t come over I am getting upset. Does anyone have any tricks to keeping my sanity during this messed up situation???

I know eventually she will quit its just getting to that point that is difficult for me. I am very stubborn & determined…I’m not going to let her win by her driving me away from him!

Thanks!
I know he feels like he is having to choose between the person he loves & his kids and I hate that! He could have both if we continue with our plans to move in together…then the kids could be there when he got off work…(he works messed up hours) I’m gonna support him no matter what he does though. I just want him to be happy you know?

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Answer by dannysgirl
All you can really do is keep a strong head. He hasn’t given you any reasons for you to think he might cheat. Any insecurity’s you might have is all caused by the ex- wife. You just keep being supportive with him. When he says he cant see you then tell him that is okay and ask him to call you when he has time. Tell him you love him and miss him. But dont let the ex win she is just playing games

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